I’ve been chatting with Justin online regularly since 2022, but we never had the chance to meet in person and I didn’t tell my friends or family anything about Justin.
Then Louis came into my life. He was introduced to me by my best friend and lived very close to me, we are in the same street. We dated a couple times a week and I had a certain crush on him. He is a nice guy. Last week, Louis asked me to be his girlfriend, and I hesitated because I can’t get Justin out of my mind, and I feel like we’re mentally connected, and it would hurt him if he found out one day.
Specific Question: What should I do now? -S.
I drew The Sun reversed coupled with The Hanged Man, and I am seeing that although you are having this dilemma between the two guys and it is quite affecting your happiness at this time, the Hanged Man is showing me that waiting at this time is important.
Followed by The Magician Reversed, I am hearing a message about “sometimes you have to listen to your own warnings and take a step back.” It seems that at this time, there is a lot of things with the two guys that are quite hidden from you, and what you have seen of both guys so far, actually isn’t a fully accurate representation of who they are. This is followed by the Moon showing me a lot of ideals and feelings you have about the two guys, aren’t what you feel it is like.
This doesn’t mean neither of them aren’t as good as you thought they were, but rather that at one point down the road, they are likely to reveal some things about themselves that you may be doubtful about in terms of a long-term, serious, committed relationship. It doesn’t mean they will reveal bad, shocking things; but rather they may reveal things that aren’t fully what you want in a relationship.
So it is important to take things slowly. Tell Louis that you really appreciate his offer to be together, but at the same time, you are still unsure what you want, and don’t want to rush into things too quickly. If you can, try to get to know Justin more than you already have as well, and if you have the courage to bring up the “What would you do if I wanted to be your girlfriend one day? Just wondering… ’cause I have wondered about my future” question, in a “I’m confused what kind of man to date, and I am worried that if I end up dating someone else, it could hurt you if you found out one day. Our friendship is special, and I want you to know this for sure.” See if you can have a very honest and direct communication about that, while letting him know that you are still trying to figure things out and don’t want to rush into any relationship yet; that you are telling him this because he is your closest friend. The other reason I am saying this is due to the cards also showing there is a blockage in communication, and some honest communication can go a long way.
Be open to what they both have to offer, and take your time. You don’t have to be together with anyone yet, but be wary of what you want and don’t want in a relationship, and communicate directly with Justin at least (since he’s the one who is closer to you). I am kind of feeling that Louis may not be as trustworthy as you think, so it is better to not be “too honest” with him but also don’t lie.
Take things slowly and try to ease up a bit, and try to communicate with Justin more regarding matters like this. You can trust Justin to some extent much more than Louis, but also try to keep at least *some* distance with Justin.
Lastly, I am it is best to expect to just be friends with both of them for now. The Moon card is also showing me that it is better if you try to see things from a distance as you may end up finding out things about both of them that could be obvious to you whether to take things to the next level or not.
~Kiyasu, www.kiyasugreen.com